I guess that’s not necessary for parents, but when it comes to speeches – everyone’s just a listener and you need to be more of a speaker. Making a speech is like conveying something adding much more charisma and persona to it. Therefore, you need to identify the nature of your child. It's not about making a guess, it's beyond that!
My best guess is that children are EXACTLY showcasing what their parents have. If you like humor, your children would absolutely love comedy and would find it really special if your speech throws a jest or two! Just identify how you have seen your children – do they like to smile while you are around or laugh openly irrespective of who's there? Do they joke around or prefer the more formal ways to express their love?
To be honest, with parents, I personally prefer the more formal way of dealing. Nonetheless, those mommies and daddies looking to keep it light and perky with some juicy quips are definitely right in their own unique ways. So, you really need to first identify what your child likes from you – that fun-loving parent who is ready to throw a jape at anyone or perhaps the one with a more refined and sober persona.
This is the most important step. It’s absolutely pivotal to effective speech writing to know how you feel about the thought that your son is soon going to get you a new daughter-in-law and will be settled with his own family, or perhaps your loved daughter is now going ahead in her own life with her family, her very own family originating from her.
It’s basically about you take it - whether you simply see it as a celebration or are you facing a hard time just to get used to with the fact that your daughter’s room will now be empty. Emotions aside, just analyze how you prefer to say things out to your children. As a parent, can you recall crying in front of your children? Ever got the chance to literally speak out how much you love them? If you have, then you are sure-as-shooting an emotional being giving love sublimely!
Couldn’t get any harder, could it? Maybe figuring out your plans would help. How do you imagine yourself on the wedding day? With eyes filled with tears and pride or simply as a father overwhelmed with joy and grace that has finally grown old enough to be proud of his offspring?
Right, now that we have figured what kind of a parent we are and what kind of a child we have been blessed with; let’s get started with the verbiage. Okay wait, we are forgetting something which will pour life into the speech – the brainstorming! I ALWAYS plan what to write before I start filling the paper with words.
What’s important before starting to write a speech is just noting down what you want to say. Okay, I know, parents can never cease to some important points. In this case, I recommend you jot down all the points you think can be mentioned and then, short-list them! It’s not like you won’t be meeting after the speech right? Why not skip the lesser important things for later? Communicate only what’s important – your emotions!
Let me guide you on how to write a classy speech for a wedding. The brainstorming would look something like this:
Now that everyone’s feasting their eyes upon you and you have stolen the spotlight, you need to make it worth it. Stand like a proud mum/dad; add grace to yourself while you stand there. Don’t look directly to the audience – give them a look as if you are thinking about what to say while looking at the floor.
Alright, now, if you were to say something with quips in it, you might start off saying something like this:
If you intend to deliver a speech after the dinner, you may make people laugh by saying “Okay people, dinner has been served, the exit door is SINCERELY awaiting your arrival! Whoops, just kidding, I just wanted to say something for my young boy, Jamey (groom's name), who has grown so big today that he has done his father proud! I never realized my son would be able to score a girl like that. Oh no son, people like you and I don’t stand such chances very often!
I guess that’s a pretty good intro to grasp everybody’s attention and begin something on the lighter side. You can continue by saying, “Miley (name of the bridesmaid) dear, thank you so much for choosing my son to turn your life towards catastrophe! *Laughs* naah, I can assure you, my boy is a one-woman man, I can assure you that – he’s going to keep you happy. You don’t realize how important you are to the family now Miley-o, I just hope we all can stay together like a family and promise to treat you just like my own daughter. Whatever comes in our way, good or bad, ups or downs, I hope we all welcome it as a family. Thank you so much for choosing James as your life partner,” Right, this followed by a hug and a fatherly kiss to your daughter in-law = the perfect speech for the bride of the day.
Time to say something for your son. “Jamey, son, your old man may sometimes have had differing opinions over things, but I just want to say you that keep this sweet girl happy, no matter what! She’s your family, make me proud by valuing her. She placed trust on you and named all her life for you son, for you and you alone. Value her decision; love her like I used to love Marilyn Monroe. Oops, nope! Love her like I love(d) your mom. Life’s simply about who we are, and its beauty is that we can choose who we become. Don’t do unfair to your wife for she cannot be wrong son, she won’t be wrong.
Time has surely flown by, whoo! I can’t believe the same Jamey who used to tell his dad how he beat up the neighbor’s children is now getting married. Yeah people; Jamey was an OG back then. *Laughs* How can I forget those men-only night overs. Oh, I’ll still call you over at nights and we can do what we used to do son, don’t worry! Just, keep Miley as happy as you can. Love this little girl for she is moving in a much more responsible life. Lastly, I would specifically like to thank all of you for coming to the dinner – I thank you all on behalf of James and Miley. Jamey, Miley, come give your daddy a hug, will you? Thank you for your time everybody, please enjoy the rest of the night.”
Ohhkay – you kept it emotional, you valued the new family member, and you thanked everyone for their time and attention while telling your son how much you love him. Remember, it’s not about specifically saying it out, it’s about saying what really touches their hearts. Speech is all about connecting to your audience. Your son, well, you can connect to him like a dad – no need to be a speaker for him!
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